Ayesha Curry sparked a huge debate recently when she tweeted that she would rather keep herself covered and save her body’s display for her husband’s eyes only. I watched women respond so negatively to Ayesha’s personal opinion and choice of lifestyle. This caused me to wonder if modesty is really the issue. I have had this topic on my heart for the past couple of weeks and I did not know how to approach the subject. Things tend to go downhill rather quickly when someone decides to talk about modesty and a woman’s duty to cover her blessings.
I really want to know what is wrong with a woman wanting to keep herself covered. I don’t argue with women who decide to put their physical attributes on display. That is your personal decision and you have to deal with the consequences. But why did Mrs. Curry’s comments ruffle so many feathers? I believe that society and the independent woman ideal has created a belief system that women are able to create their own standards of living without any consequences. That God’s design and purpose for our lives and bodies are on the back burner because we have been fighting for so long for the right to do and say as we please. It is so sad to see young girls, babies even, dressed with literally nothing on. We, as women, should be teaching our children especially that it’s okay to be modest and that modesty can be beautiful. Modesty does not make you less beautiful. It actually enhances your physical attributes. Your appearance says a lot about your character regardless of your words, actions, or thoughts. I have always been taught that the first impression has an everlasting impact on how others view you.
1 Timothy 2:9 & 10 says “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; but (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.” If you are professing to be a Christian then you should live as such. It shouldn’t be a debate about your attire once you start walking in the light.
I remember wearing a dress as a teen to church one Sabbath that showed some cleavage. I didn’t think anything of it until a young man sat next to me and was “looking” at my bible. From that day forward I have been very conscious of what I wear to church, to work, to school, and even to Walmart. We shouldn’t be debating about why women should dress with sophistication and class. We should NOT be debating about why mothers should raise their daughters to be fierce and modest.
I observe how the people I know and interact with raise their sons and the kind of men they marry. Those sons wear bowties to school and dress in three piece suits for church before they can walk. But when it comes to the mothers, wives, and daughters there’s a discord because God said to be modest and inspired the word about the Proverbs 31 woman.
I believe women have a responsibility to themselves and their future generations to uphold a standard of righteous living. To carry themselves with respect and dignity. Women like Ayesha Curry shouldn’t be a dying breed……